Amber and Joy – We don’t know his parents.. He has the same teacher. We should talk with her about this.. you are right. And we are doing our best to talk also with our daughter, to get her to understand that she has to say no.

A child from about the age of two can start learning about their private zones. Those are zones that no one (not even parents) are allowed to touch inappropriately. You teach her the words don’t call them anything cute like… whoo hoo, or boobies… just those are your “privates”. Those are yours. No one can touch them without your permission says God. So saying no isn’t a bad thing, because God teaches everyone that privates are just that…. private. Kinda like the commandments. That takes the pressure off of her. If God says it… see?

A friend of mine did this with her child. The reason she called them privates was because children will refer to these in public. Privates are far nicer and less embarrassing in mixed company – you know how kids just love to tell you something in front of grandma!

It is never ok for someone to invade your child’s personal space. Male or female. Boundaries are a great thing to learn early. Teach her she has a voice and that she is worthwhile!!!

On the other hand, I would go to the teacher and bring up your daughter’s concerns, and yours. If it is approached in a calm, rational manner, I would hope the teacher would be supportive, begin watching for that behavior from the boy, and step in when she sees the need. Maybe with her nicely correcting him, and explaining how we should keep our hands to ourselves, he might heed the advice.